From Breakup To Breakthrough

Nina self-love


One year ago today, my world fell apart – I went through hell.

My heart was bleeding and I did not want to live anymore. I was so hurt, lost, and devastated. I had just lost my dreams, and I thought I would never smile again; I could not imagine rebuilding my life.

A few months later, after waking up every morning with unbearable pain, I decided to stop acting like a victim. I saw it as a challenge instead and decided to adopt this challenge as an opportunity for self-transformation. I made the decision to get past the hurt and move forward with my life.

The break-up was a very painful experience in every way, and I finally had no choice but to face myself honestly. I needed to step out of my comfort zone. 

Instead of continuously suffering, searching for answers, and longing for closure, I decided to embark on a journey of self-growth and create my best possible future. I wanted to willingly move forward. I got help. I learned. I healed. I grew. I made changes.

I decided to work on myself like never before, leading to an incredible journey of self-discovery and personal transformation that would forever change me.

I could have chosen to stay in bed and dwell on my break-up, but instead, I decided to take action by creating my new life – because I am the creator of my world. I started to wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful was about to happen to me.

It wasn’t always easy; some days I just wanted to stay in bed and cry. And I did. A lot. But every time I cried, I comforted myself. I somehow managed to tell myself that the tears flowing were cleansing my heart, so every time I cried, I knew I was closer to healing my heart.

The turning point, I believe, was my realization that without this break-up, I would never have questioned myself and started this journey to improve myself. I had been comfortable, believing that I was perfectly fine. But that was very far from the truth.

I realized that I needed to rediscover myself and start all over again.

I became fascinated with self-growth and self-transformation, but most importantly, I found my higher purpose and passion. I wanted to be an inspiration to people: I wanted someone to look at me and say “Thanks to you, I didn’t give up.”

This self-transformational journey was anything but easy. I shed a lot of tears…and the most painful tears are the ones shed for a person you thought would never hurt you. Self-transformation was not just about changing myself: it was about shifting myself to an entirely new perception.

I learned that my foremost responsibility was to love myself and to know that I am enough.

I realized that you could never meet your full potential until you truly learn to love yourself. Self-love is essential.

I also learned not to search for that one person that will change my life, but to look in the mirror and see the person staring back at me as the only one that could bring the change I needed. I was born to be real, not perfect, so I learned to celebrate and praise myself. I also learned to be proud of myself. I have come so far.

Now, I look back with immense gratitude for the incredible gifts that time bestowed upon me. It instilled in me a deep trust that the universe did actually have my back and a greater plan for my future. I would do it all over again, in a heartbeat, for the incredible insights and growth I gained through what were most definitely my darkest hours.

Without this painful experience, I may not have discovered my spiritual path, and may not have had the opportunity to develop into the person that I am today. I know this transition was not about becoming someone better, but about finally allowing myself to become who I have always been.

You would not be reading these lines without my pain, which I hope will be a great inspiration and help you discover that there is an opportunity for transformation and growth in every disappointment.

This journey would never have been possible without my dearest mom, all my closest friends, and other amazing people I met during this journey. I feel especially grateful to my coaches and mentors. They all patiently listened to me and showed up for me every time I needed them.

I would never have made it without you, and I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

With gratitude and love ❤️

Nina x